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Spiritual Rhythms

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Growth happens naturally, but healthy growth takes planning.

Once we learn to walk and feed ourselves, we can pretty much go anywhere and eat anything we want. Fortunately, God gave us parents to keep us from running away and living on Twinkies!

Like physical growth, healthy spiritual growth takes planning. Unfortunately, we don’t always have spiritual parents to help us grow into healthy, fruitful spiritual adults.

Over the next few weeks, I’m going to be a spiritual dad and write about the spiritual rhythms that make growth possible. Historically, these have been called spiritual disciplines. It’s a good but sometimes scary term, which is why I use the word rhythms instead. You can also think of them as predictable patterns or simple, repeatable patterns.

Spiritual rhythms fall into two broad categories: things to do and things to stop doing; add and subtract; commit and omit.

Each week, I’ll post about two rhythms. On Mondays, I’ll write about an add rhythm and on Thursdays, about a subtract rhythm. If these are new to you, then a week won’t be enough time to cement a new habit. Don’t worry about that; when you find something that works, stick with it long enough that you’ll miss it if you stop. That probably means three weeks or more.

Here’s a look at where we’re going:

Spiritual Rhythms

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Silence and Stillness

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Today’s post is from Pastor Pete Scazzero*.

EHS Stillness_SilenceSilence and stillness are the two most radical spiritual disciplines that need to be injected into a paradigm shift of how we do discipleship in our churches. They are indispensable to slow our people down so they cultivate a first-hand, personal relationship with Jesus.

My transformative experience with these disciplines took place in 2003 with a community of Trappist monks and the Taize Community in France.  I remember sitting at Taize, and struggling, during the 8-10 minutes of silence that was part of each morning, afternoon and evening prayer.

Yet my relationship with has Jesus changed dramatically as I slowly learned to integrate silence and stillness into my daily life. Scriptures such as the following came alive:

  • He says, “Be still, and know that I am God.” Ps. 46:10
  • Be still before the Lord and wait patiently for him.  Ps. 37:7
  • Moses answered, “Do not be afraid…The Egyptians you see today you will never see again. The Lord will fight for you; you need only to be still.” Ex. 14:13-14
  • When you are on your beds, search your hearts and be silent. Ps. 4:4-5
  • Be silent before the Sovereign Lord, for the day of the Lord is near.  Zeph 1:7

If silence is the practice of quieting every inner and outer voice to be attentive to God, stillness is the practice of letting go of our grip on life to relax in Him (see Peter Craigie, Psalms 1-50, WBC, Vol.19).  They are closely related, but slightly different.

These spiritual practices turn life upside down. We normally determine the agenda and pace of our lives. We go our own way, the very essence of sin. When we sit in silence and stillness, we begin the process of allowing God to be the center of our world. We let go of control and surrender to Him.

*Pete Scazzero is the Founding Pastor of New Life Fellowship Church in Queens, NYC. After serving as Senior Pastor for twenty-six years, Pete now serves as a Teaching Pastor/Pastor at Large. He is the author of two best-selling books: The Emotionally Healthy Church and Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. He is also the author of The EHS Course and Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Day by Day. Pete and Geri are founders of Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, a groundbreaking ministry that equips churches in deep, beneath-the-surface spiritual formation paradigm that integrates emotional health and contemplative spirituality. For more information, visit www.emotionallyhealthy.org.

Rainy Days and Mondays

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My apologies to the Carpenters, but I like rainy days.

Rain through WindowI spent the first half of my life in wet climates: western Canada, Germany, England, Seattle. Most of the last half has been in San Diego, with its incessant sun and persistent 70-degree weather. So when I awoke this morning to the sound of rain pouring down on the metal roof of our condo, I looked forward to cozying up on the couch in the early morning quiet, sipping my coffee, and looking out the window at the rain.

The showers from heaven nourish our parched California dirt. Four years of drought have taken their toll, even here in the temperate climes of this city tucked between beach and mountains. The raindrops remind me that God cares for us, that He won’t let us languish forever on the baked clay. Rain brings hope, life.

But as I sat in my living room, enjoying the downpour in dry comfort, my thoughts turned to others—to those for whom the rain brings not hope, but fear; not comfort, but dismal cold and struggle. I thought of the many homeless outside my walls: men and women whose best hope is to find a sheltered store entrance, at least until the library opens at ten; boys and girls whose only hope is to dry off a little before school…where they anticipate a small meal and a few hours indoors.

I think of the families living thirty miles south, in makeshift homes of plywood and leaky tarps that dot the now-muddy hillsides around Tijuana, Mexico. I’ve spent time there, helping to build new, dry, secure homes. But concrete floors and stucco walls only offer so much; they can protect from rain, but not the cold.

God makes the sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and the unjust. (Matthew 5:45)

I don’t enjoy the rain because I am good and just; they don’t dread it because they are evil. But if rain is to me a blessing, how might I pass on that blessing to those for whom it seems a curse? How can I serve, love, help those who look on the clouds not with hope but with fear?

Raising Disciples

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Over the past couple weeks I have written about changing the way we think about discipleship, shifting from a mindset of production to reproduction. In my first post I said that “make disciples” is a poor translation of Matthew 28:19 that puts us in the production mindset. Last week I identified three aspects of a production mindset—process, efficiency, and fertility—that don’t fit with the Biblical concept of discipleship. Today I want to talk about what a reproduction mindset might look like.

Discipleship as reproduction fits with Biblical language: the Bible consistently refers to followers of God as His children, His sons and daughters. The apostle Paul—often considered the model for New Testament discipleship—calls both Timothy and Titus his “true sons in the faith,” and compares his relationship with the Thessalonian believers to “a nursing mother taking care of her own children” (1 Thess. 2:7).

If we are to be effective disciplers, our both our mindsets and our language need to make this shift. Rather than thinking of ourselves as manufacturers and process managers seeking maximum efficiency in the production of widget-disciples, we need to adopt (pun intended) the mindset of parents excited about reproducing little people like ourselves, striving to be like Jesus. But how?

Most of the churches I’ve been part of have asked a question—What is a disciple?—and answered it with a list of five or ten qualities that will guide that church’s disciple-making efforts (and its programs). There are a couple drawbacks to this. First, it keeps us in the production mindset; it becomes a checklist for “Quality Control,” and we think that once we check off each of the items on the list, we have a disciple. It also gives the impression that the production cycle has an end; until everything is checked off, we’re not quite a disciple; but when the list is complete, so are we—we’ve arrived.

A reproduction mindset gets us thinking differently. Parents have dreams for their kids, not checklists. We don’t have a final Quality Control check we look at before sending them off into the world. We don’t even start out by thinking, “I want to make adults.” No, we think, “I’d like to have kids.” In a reproduction mindset, we are not making adults, but reproducing people. The hope and expectation is that they will grow into adults, but even adulthood is just one phase in what ought to be a lifetime of growth and change.

In a reproduction mindset, we recognize that disciples are never a finished product, but people always in process.

When we make this shift in thinking, we begin to look at disciples (people) and discipleship (process) differently. We begin to realize that we are both always a disciple and, at the same time, never quite a disciple; we are always growing, learning, maturing. In the same way, discipleship never really ends, but it will look different at different stages in the life of the disciple.

In coming posts, I will dive deeper into the reproduction process (discipleship) and the phases of being a disciple, such as infancy, childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. But I want to leave you today with one challenge related to this: In your church, are the children’s and youth ministries aimed at taking care of children, or at growing disciples? Or let me flip that around: is your discipling aimed at all ages, or only adults?

If the children and youth are not seen as disciples-in-process, then you probably have a production mindset. What is one thing you can do this year to change that?

Moving from Production to Reproduction

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BabLast week I wrote that the church needs to quit trying to make disciples and focus instead on reproducing disciples. That is, we need to shift our mindset from production to reproduction. Today I want to address some of the key differences between those two mindsets: process, efficiency, and fertility.

Process. When my wife and I decided to have children (as if it was really up to us!), we didn’t first sit down and plot what those children would look like as adults. We didn’t list the steps by which our babies would be transformed into full-grown, fully-functioning men or women. We knew there would be a variety of phases—infancy, childhood, adolescence, teenager—and we read a variety of resources that we hoped would help along the way. Mostly, though, we just held hands, and held our breath, and dove unprepared into the terrifying world of parenthood.

A plethora of child-rearing books is available to parents, each with its own litany of steps and hints and must-do’s to raise successful kids. Many of those resources agree on basic principles; many have blatantly convicting advice. And as any new parent quickly realizes, the collective tips and counsel from parents, friends, and complete strangers is no more congruous. We realize just as quickly that our child is unlike anyone else’s; in fact, children from the same parents are totally unique—even fraternal twins, for all their biological similarities, have unique personalities. Given these uniquenesses, we cannot squeeze children through a production mold.

Nor are any two disciples the same. Nurturing one spiritual infant through adolescence and into (or at least toward) spiritual maturity will not follow the same path as for any other. There will be similarities; there is a body of knowledge that can be taught, along with a number of skills. Habits can be developed that are indicators of growing maturity. But the paths to maturity diverge quickly, flowing through the unique experiences that each individual faces. Reproducing disciples doesn’t have a set process.

Efficiency. During my undergraduate business studies, I took a fascinating course called Production Operations Management. During the semester, we studied the host of ways businesses streamline their processes to achieve maximum efficiency. We learned about satellite-guided trucking and Just-In-Time (JIT) delivery. We learned how computers are used to map the maximum number of different pieces to cut from a single sheet of plywood. Every hour and every mile saved in shipping, every former scrap that can be used in the final product, every reduction in storage time—every gain in efficiency—contributes to a company’s profits and therefore its success.

Similar thinking has crept into the western church: if we can just get more people into the church to hear the gospel, then more will become followers of Jesus. If we can teach those followers all at once what they all need to know, then more will become disciples sooner. This type of thinking—born out of an honest and righteous desire to expand God’s kingdom—is at the heart of the church growth movement, the multi-site phenomenon, and radio and TV ministries. It’s not necessarily bad, but it needs to be looked at more critically than it probably has been.

Reproduction in the human world is inherently inefficient. Spiders and fish may give birth to thousands of little spiders and fish; but among humans, multiple births are rare. According to the Centers for Disease Control, the twin birth rate is less than 34 per 1,000 live births (0.337%); the rate for triplets and more is 119.5 per 100,000 (0.12%). Our physical, mental, emotional, and social systems aren’t designed for greater efficiency. Neither are our spiritual systems. The apostle Paul frequently used the language of parenthood when speaking of those whose faith he nurtured. He called both Timothy and Titus his “true sons in the faith.” He wrote to the Thessalonians about having nurtured them “like a nursing mother taking care of her own children” (1 Thess 2:7). No mother can nurse more than two children at a time! Reproducing disciples is not efficient.

Fertility. Early in our marriage, my wife and I were part of a Sunday School class for young couples. During the three years we were part of that class, not a month went by that we didn’t have three couples pregnant. Jokes abounded about our collective fertility, usually centering around the donuts that were served each week. But as time passed and different couples moved on to their second and third pregnancies, we also began to realize that among us were couples who weren’t having babies…but who wanted to, and with increasing desperation.

It’s clear from Scripture that not every couple will be able to have children. It’s also clear that children, when they do come, are a gift from the sovereign God. In similar fashion, we don’t make disciples—God does; we are, however, entrusted with the responsibility to nurture disciples: to train, teach, love, and correct, all with the aim of growing those disciples into maturity and releasing them to nurture more disciples. Reproduction, not production.

The challenge of discipleship in the western church is as much cultural as it is spiritual. In the industrialized, individualized west, we want to make everything big, streamlined, and efficient. We create processes and seek endlessly to improve those processes in order to turn out products in ever-increasing numbers. Discipleship, however, is small, bumpy, and terribly inefficient. It looks more like parenting than manufacturing. Reproduction, not production. Next week I will dive more into this parenting analogy and what that might look like in a church.